Premature ejaculation is the term given when a man orgasms sooner than he (or his partner) would like. It is something that usually happens shortly after penetration, and most who men present with Premature Ejaculation (PE) regularly ejaculate before or within one minute of penetration.
Premature ejaculation can be an embarrassing occurrence, and it can also be frustrating too. It may hinder a man forming personal bonds with partners, and it can lead to anxiety and even social avoidance. For many men it can damage their intimate (and otherwise healthy) relationships.
Premature ejaculation can affect men of all ages, however men over 40 years old seem to suffer with it more regularly than those who are younger. It is estimated that approximately 30% – 40% of men have a problem with premature ejaculation at some point in their life. Primary premature ejaculation affects around 1 in 50 men in England.
For most men, the only symptom is the premature ejaculation itself.
However, suffering from PE can also lead to anxiety or feelings of depression – which is why it’s so important to seek help from a professional before your personal life or mental health starts to suffer too.
The causes of PE are generally split into two categories. Physical causes and psychological causes too. We’ve listed out these causes below.
Common physical causes of PE include:
High blood pressure.
Hypothyroidism (under active thyroid hormone).
Use of recreational drugs (i.e. cocaine, ecstasy).
Alcohol in excess.
Common psychological causes of PE include:
Erectile dysfunction (i.e. being anxious to lose erection causing the man to ‘rush’ the intercourse).
Performance anxiety (i.e. start of a new sexual relationship, or when a man has had previous problems with PE or ED).
Unresolved problems, conflicts or issues within a sexual and emotional relationship.
Strict upbringing where sexual activity is only considered appropriate in marriage and for procreation purpose only. One may find it difficult to relax during sex or be unable to let go of the belief that sex for pleasure is wrong or sinful.
Early sexual experience where a teenager conditions himself to ejaculate quickly to avoid being caught masturbating may later find it difficult to break the habit.
Previous traumatic sexual experiences.
Living with PE can be difficult, but it’s important to remind yourself that it is a common problem that many men across the UK suffer with.
Where possible it’s important to talk about how the PE makes you feel, and to be open and honest with your partner (and doctor) about the difficulties you’re having and look into ways of reducing anxiety, stress and worry surrounding it.
The inability to control and delay ejaculation for as long as both partners desire, is usually regarded as a severe disruption to quality of life and therefore requires professional intervention. PE can be very distressing and confidence-destroying – and over time it can damage intimacy and relationships. It can create extreme performance anxiety during sexual activity and therefore more frequent occurrences of PE in return.
Many men find it extremely difficult to come out of this vicious cycle without any professional help. Medication is sometimes necessary to break the cycle and to give back control of their sex lives. If left untreated, PE can cause feelings of shame, frustration, and lack of self-esteem. It may lead to a man avoiding sexual intimacy altogether.
Whilst seeking professional help can be intimidating for many men, it’s something that is important and also needed to successfully move past the issue. Medical professionals, doctors and practitioners will have treated other men with the same problem, so it is nothing to feel worried or embarrassed about.
Your first step is likely to speak to your doctor, or speak to a private doctor / practitioner – such as our team at Harley Street MD. Because of the variety of treatments available now, there is no need to undergo surgery, as we offer experienced and professional premature ejaculation therapy on Harley Street to help you find the solution you need.
We will discuss with you the various options available, and together you’ll work out the best plan of action to address the problem.
At Harley Street MD, we have years of experience in successful premature ejaculation treatment in the UK. We understand the extent of distress you are in, and we can assure you of an empathetic, confidential and professional consultation.
Book a consultation today with one of our experienced doctors near you.